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Negotiating From The Heart

Secrets for Successful Scenes

“TouchDeep and HeartBound are excellent at making the subject interesting and accessible and clear. Great interaction with the participants.”


Want to have more success in your scenes? Well-done negotiation creates the scenes that touch our deepest selves and leave us breathless. Join us for ways to make negotiation easier, more productive, and more equitable. Longtime kinksters and those new to the scene will master simple yet powerful skills to use right away. Negotiating from the Heart will help you get what you most want in your scenes: greater intimacy, safety, pleasure, and more intense experiences for everyone!

Notes for Event Producers

This is an outstanding workshop that draws well and makes a difference for people. We think of it as solid BDSM foundation education. We’ve not seen another negotiation workshop that leaves participants with an easy-to-use negotiation method. We do that.

Logistical Requirements

• Chairs set in a horseshoe (3-sided circle) configuration or classroom-style.

• A six-foot or larger table.

Materials Needed

• All of our hand-outs are PDFs, sent to participants via e-mail.

Program Type

Lecture/Discussion and Practice.

Optimal Presentation Length

90 minutes.

Participant Skill Level Required

All skill levels.

Programming Track

BDSM 101 Skills, Relationships

Presentation History

  • Brimstone 6, 2019
  • TES Fest, 2016
  • The Geeky Kink Event, 2015
  • KinkyCon, 2015
  • Dark Odyssey: Winter Fire, 2014
  • Dark Odyssey: Fusion, 2014
  • The Floating World, 2014
  • Dark Odyssey: SummerFest, 2014

Here's What Participants Have Said About Negotiating from the Heart

“You guys gave one of the best presentations we’ve ever had.” —Event Organizer, Black Rose, 2017


“This was excellent. I appreciated the dynamic and energy of the presenters.” —Black Rose, 2017


“TouchDeep and HeartBound are excellent at making the subject interesting and accessible and clear. Great interaction with the participants.” —Black Rose, 2017


“TouchDeep and HeartBound are wonderful teachers! Good interaction and eye contact with participants, and validating responses. Playful, and treated students with great respect and humor, allowing folks to open up. They’re nonjudgmental! Clearly understand the complexity of hard conversations. Really well done.” —Black Rose, 2017


“Great presentation skills.” —The Geeky Kink Event, 2015


“Really enjoyed it. Presented stuff that I kinda knew, in a fresh way. Participation from audience was great.” —The Geeky Kink Event, 2015


“Great! Fun and informative.” —The Geeky Kink Event, 2015


“Dynamic, knew their material. Awesome energy, always on point.” —KinkyCon, 2015


“Articulate, sex-positive, and smart. Great responses to our questions.” —KinkyCon, 2015


“Excellent handling of discussion, good theatrical sense, clean presentation.” —KinkyCon, 2015


“Thank you for your incredible workshops. My wife and I were able to attend both of them and they have already had a positive impact on our relationship. As a long term monogamous couple we didn’t do a lot of negotiating prior to play assuming that we knew each other well but your negotiations workshop has shown us the importance of negotiating for the current scene in the current time and place.” —Charm City Fetish Fair, 2014


“The workshop was really fabulous. I’d always made a point to negotiate hard and soft limits, but I had never thought about needs and desires. That was eye-opening! As was the concept that negotiation need only be for that moment—that scene. As we left, my new friend commented that much of what we’d learned in that workshop could be applied to the vanilla world; I agree!” —THE Beltane, 2014


“TouchDeep and HeartBound do a GREAT negotiation class. Definitely recommended.” —Charm City Fetish Fair, 2014


“…i attended your negotiation class last winter fire and can’t wait to attend more in the future!” —Dark Odyssey: Winter Fire, 2013


“Excellent presentation and speakers. Will be attending more classes of yours.” —The Floating World, 2013